“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother.” Genesis 2:24
God said, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” God said that to Adam and Eve, the first two people on earth, who had neither father nor mother to leave, nor children, yet, to leave them.
Have your children left home? If so, you’ve discovered that you don’t adjust overnight to your sense of loss. After all, you’ve invested yourself, your time, your labor, your love, your faith and your hopes in them. They’re your most precious possessions, your pride and joy; now they’re leaving and taking a big chunk of you with them. The empty nest can be both shocking and depressing. But it’s been Life 101, ever since Eden. That’s why God laid it out for Adam and Eve so early in the parenting game. Knowing that one of the hardest parts of parenting is letting go, God was saying, “Letting go takes time. Start preparing yourself now, before you have children.”
Our kids are born leaving! From their first steps, they’re on an outbound orbit, returning periodically to tank up on reassurance (or funds) and leaving again to become their “own person,” couple or family as God intended. So begin early, “letting out the line,” gradually increasing their freedom as they can handle responsibility. God gives us two principles for a healthy marriage in Genesis 2:24: leaving and cleaving. Your child must leave you in order to cleave to the partner God is giving them. So invest in their happiness by having your own life and letting them have theirs. Making it easier for them makes it easier on you!
Reprinted from Jentezen Franklin’s Blog