Forgiveness; Should I or Shouldn’t I?

How to forgive. Keys to Victorious faith. Inspirational BlogToday I ask the question, “Who do you need to forgive and why? I had a conversation with a friend over the weekend about anger and the benefits of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a funny thing, where by doing it, you not only release the other person from your anger but you also free yourself. Do you realize how much energy you put into keeping an old score unsettled? How it is a constant reminder of how someone did us wrong? How that moment or series of moments keeps playing the scene over and over again in our head, like a movie that never changes? Is this a good use of our time and energy? Who is our anger really affecting? Us or them?

When you don’t forgive someone, you take it upon yourself to keep that anger near the surface. You give that anger active power, power that could be directed towards what you do want, not what you don’t want. It has been said that whatever you focus on comes back to you into your life, whether the focus be positive or negative.

If you insist on not forgiving, for whatever reason that works for you, you are really causing more anger to manifest itself. Perhaps you never looked at it this way. Perhaps you think your anger is justified because we don’t know all of the facts. Perhaps you think that you will look weak and the other person will win, if you forgive them.

I remember a story I saw on TV years ago. A woman had been torched, wrapped in bandages and in pain, when the interviewer asked her if she hated the person who had done this to her? She thought for a split second and responded with a, “No”. When asked why not, she said she didn’t want that person to have power over her. She didn’t want that person constantly in her thoughts. She said she forgave him, not because it helped him, but because to forgive helped her. She needed every ounce of energy possible to make a recovery and she wouldn’t waste once ounce more on her attacker.

When Jesus was hanging on a cross, dying for something He had never done, His last words were “Father forgive them.” Whenever I have been wronged I try to think about the wrongs which Jesus had happen to Him. He never, ever deserved the punishment He was given, yet He was willing and He forgave. He forgives you and me as well; and for that I am so grateful.

Try it; forgive someone today for what they did to you yesterday, last year, ten years ago, etc. Who feels better? Them or you? Release yourself from the burden of carrying around anger and move forward and focus on what you really want, what we all want; love, understanding and forgiveness.

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8 thoughts on “Forgiveness; Should I or Shouldn’t I?

  1. […] Sandra Hersey posted a noteworthy aricle today onHere’s a small snippetToday I ask the question, “Who do you need to forgive and why? I had a conversation with a friend over the weekend about anger and the benefits of forgiveness. Forgiveness is a funny thing, where by doing it, you not only release the … […]


  2. Sharon Ball March 5, 2009 at 1:31 PM

    This is the first message I’ve read this morning and what a blessing it is. As Paul said, “I have learned to be content in all things.” What a powerful and empowering message. Thank you so much.


  3. Becky March 5, 2009 at 7:56 AM

    I would have to say that I used to believe that murderers should not be forgiven. I understand things so much better now. Forgiveness really is important.


  4. krissy knox March 5, 2009 at 7:47 AM

    hey girl!

    Just wanted to let you know I am subscribing to this blog. It’s wonderful! I especially love the Proverbs 31 Woman post! I will be back often. If I don’t post or tweet every day, please understand, as my husband has a lot of health problems. He is recovering from a bone marrow transplant due to two cancers. But I wanted to tell you I’m following your blog too!

    krissy 🙂


  5. wingingit March 5, 2009 at 12:30 AM

    Sandra, this is something I have had to learn in a deeper way the last 8-9 months. I have always been quick to forgive. What I have had to learn during this period, is truly some things take much work to forgive. Everything you said is true. It is definitely for OUR benefit.

    Last month at our Ladies meeting, one of the scriptures they spoke of included these:

    “12And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven ([e]left, remitted, and let go of the debts, and have [f]given up resentment against) our debtors…..

    14For if you forgive people their trespasses [their [g]reckless and willful sins, [h]leaving them, letting them go, and [i]giving up resentment], your heavenly Father will also forgive you.

    15But if you do not forgive others their trespasses [their [j]reckless and willful sins, [k]leaving them, letting them go, and [l]giving up resentment], neither will your Father forgive you your trespasses.

    Somehow it give me extra momentum to read these verses in my Bible with the Amplified version…for me it was just the nudge over the hump I kept getting stuck and rolling backwards over…the part where it says, “leaving them, letting them go, and giving up on resentment…” Did I already know this? Yes. But, that is just how God’s Word is, ALIVE! sometimes just hearing it or reading it that precious 1 more time can be all that you need! 🙂

    Beautiful thoughts, Sandra! Thank you!


  6. April G March 4, 2009 at 7:29 PM

    Thank you for this. This came to me at a time in my life when I needed it. I have been holding onto something for one of the very reasons you wrote here – that I thought it would make it seem like that person won if I forgave them. Now, I am the one winning. I just have to change the way I look at it and let it go. Thank you again.


  7. Tara B. March 4, 2009 at 1:25 PM

    What a beautiful post! So true…can you imagine how different our world would be if we all practiced this beautiful concept? Thanks for sharing your thoughts…


  8. Qtpies7 March 4, 2009 at 2:49 PM

    Unforgiveness is a cancer that kills YOU, not the person you won’t forgive.


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