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Love – It’s Not a Feeling It’s a Lifestyle

Love - It's Not a Feeling It's a Lifestyle. Keys to victorious faith. Inspirational BlogIs love a warm fuzzy feeling? Does it bring about singing birds and seeing everything through rose-colored glasses? What about us as Christians – when we don’t “feel” those warm fuzzy feelings does this mean we aren’t living as Jesus instructed us to? The Bible never tells us a “warm fuzzy feeling” is the definition for “love.” Hollywood has portrayed to us what the world sees as love and unfortunately we have bought it hook, line, and sinker! So, what is the Biblical definition for love?

Jesus was once asked in Matthew 22:36-40, “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the law?” Jesus said to him, ‘You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” According to Matthew the very essence of the Law is to love God and to love others.  Matthew also gives us the Biblical definition for love: “Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” (Matthew 7:12)

Jesus told us “By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35). John, wrote, “We know that we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren. He who does not love his brother abides in death” (1 John 3:14). And “by this we know that we love the children of God, when we love God and keep His commandments. For this is the love of God, that we keep His commandments. And His commandments are not burdensome” (1 John 5:2-3). Nowhere does our “feelings” play a role in whether we are to love or whether we should have a “feeling” before we show love.

When we use the word “love” we must understand there are different types of love. I love my husband one way, but I  love my Pastors in a different way. I love my friends in a different way still – however, my love for my church family is different all together. We get confused when we only have the one word to sum up all these different meanings; the word – love.

In the New Testament Greek four main words are used for the term “love.” Each of these words have different meanings.

The first word is “eros.” It’s the wow stuff. It is exciting and it makes us do some very silly things and this is what most people think love is. It means romantic and sexual love between lovers.

Apart from this romantic love there is also love between friends. In Greek this word is “philia.” We all know this type of love and know it is different from the romantic love we just talked about.

Then there is the love we feel for our families. We are brought up to love them – indeed the Bible tells us to honor our father and mother. The strange thing about this type of love, which in Greek is called “storge” – is that it is very difficult to end this type of love. Sadly friendships come to an end, but no matter how estranged one is from one’s family, they still are your family! We may not talk to them for years, we may be angry with them and get totally fed up with them, but they still are our family and we recognise that we have some duty to them. What is different about it, though, is that it stems from a sense of obligation and duty, whereas “philia” the love we have for our friends is what we choose to give and “eros” love often takes us by surprise!

As great as all these loves are, they don’t speak of the love that Jesus was talking about where he says “I give you a new commandment, love one another; just as I have loved you, you also must love one another.” This type of love is radically different from all the others. In Greek it’s called “agape” and it means a sacrificial, unconditional, and possibly unreciprocated love.

Agape love is about giving of ourselves and expecting and wanting nothing in return. (This is not the type of love we usually “feel” or even want to give, especially when we are hurt!) It means loving other people regardless of whether we like them or whether they love us back. The best example is Jesus who laid down his life, not only for his friends, family, or those who made him “feel” loved – but for everyone! Agape love is what made Jesus lay down His life for us all – even though some don’t want to accept His offer. It is this last form of love – agape love – which Jesus commands us to have for each other. A love that no matter what someone has done or not done, no matter how we feel or don’t feel, whether we want to or not – we are to love one another as Jesus has loved us!

I challenge you today to ask the Holy Spirit to show you where you need to show love to someone. Choose to walk in agape love for those around you and watch what God does for you!

{Want more devotions? I’m A Sword Wielding Devil Slayer; Declaring The Word of God and Taking Back What the Devil Has Stolen From Me!}

The Emotional Roller-coaster – How To Get Off!

How to get off the emotional roller coasterEvery day of our life brings opportunities for our emotions to lead us on a roller coaster. Our emotions are truly one of the major struggles in our lives. We can however choose to be stable, steadfast, and determined instead of buying a ticket for this emotional roller coaster. If we allow our emotions to rule over us and to tell us how to act, then there is no way you and I will ever be the person God has intended us to be. We are not going to be able to let go of all of our emotions, however we can learn to control them instead of letting them determine how we feel!

As I said before opportunities will arise for us to allow our feelings to charter the course of our actions. We must begin to realize our feelings change from day to day, hour to hour, and like most people even from minute to minute. Not only do our feelings change they can even be giving us a shaded story or uncompleted truth. Have you ever entered a room and felt everybody was talking about you? Just because we feel everyone is talking about us does not mean they are! Satan loves to get us on how we feel. He wants us to feel that nobody understands us or appreciates us. He wants us to feel we are misunderstood or even mistreated. No matter how we feel we must realize that feeling this way does not mean it is true. If we want to be mature Christians and be all God intends us to be then we must be determined not to walk according to what we feel.

Our decisions must be based on what we know rather than on what we feel. We know what the Word of God instructs us to do in every situation of our life. If we don’t-then we must search it out and put our situation on the altar before God. I know it is hard not to let our feelings get in the way when we have been hurt or when we are upset. But this is the time we really need to seek the Lord and His Word to be led on how we act – not act on how we feel. I teach all the time, from Bible College Students to congregations, that we are to never be led by how we feel. Our emotions will lead us into the wrong direction 99% of the time. When we are hurt we must look to make sure we are not allowing offense to come in. Offense is the leading cause of our hurt emotions and it is a ploy of the enemy to steal, kill, and destroy us and our lives!

Look at what Jeremiah 17:9 says in the amplified “The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly perverse and corrupt and severely, mortally sick!” Now we may not like this particular verse because it tells us exactly how our heart acts. Think about it – the last time you were in a real hard situation with someone else – was it not over feelings? Were you affected by something they did or said? Then I promise you the enemy took hold and turned your mind or heart to your feelings which according to the scripture we just read – deceived you and the other person. What was Satan’s goal in that situation between you and the other person? Well it is his number one goal for your life- John 10:10 –“The thief comes only in order to steal and kill and destroy…” He wants to steal relationships and friendships from you by using your feelings, he wants to destroy these relationships so he can get you from them and get you by yourself so you can keep going over in your head how you feel and what they did! The ultimate goal is to kill you, little by little, step by step he uses your feelings to bring you closer to his goal. And before you know it friendships are gone, relationships are destroyed, and you have even left the church who was helping you to grow.

Emotions are wonderful, but we must not allow them to take precedence over wisdom and knowledge. We can control our emotions instead of letting them control us. We must seek the Lord and forgive whomever has hurt us and watch how God will restore us!

{Know someone who is facing hard times? The Drying Pot; And The Refining Fires Necessary To Become A Vessel Used By God}