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How Do You Talk To Yourself?

How Do You Talk To Yourself? Keys to victorious faith. Inspirational BlogHow do you talk to yourself?

Do you use the words “can’t”, “won’t”, “don’t need to”, “why try?”  Many people do.

Do you find that what you say to yourself turns out to be true? Why is this?

You see your brain is like a computer that you feed each day. It
doesn’t always know what’s real or not unless you tell it.

Example: If someone you love has hurt you, you may tell yourself that all people who love you will probably hurt you too.

Your brain just files this information for reference, its data, little zeroes and ones and no column that asks “true or not true?” Now your brain thinks, based on what you told it, that everyone you’ll ever love will hurt you.

How do you think you will respond the next time you get hurt?


Now, what if we instead told our brain:

“Okay this person ripped my heart out – but that’s only one person.
I’m lovable and have many loving people in my life who are not out to hurt me. I know that the right people are coming into my life all the time. If someone hurts me, I will forgive them and bless them on their way.”

Words can be empowering.

I can
I love to
I want to
I will
I must
I am
We can reach a new level of living, if we feed ourselves empowering words and practice saying them until they become a habit.

I know first hand that it takes time.

And I also know that it’s worth it.

Use Empowering Words When You Talk to Yourself
{Whether you are speaking out loud or silently}

Try it for a week.

Catch yourself saying, “I can’t”, when you don’t really mean it and instead try, “I can”, and see how you think and feel about yourself.

Remember, the words you use to empower yourself will have a lasting effect, only if you practice them and they become a habit {an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed
until it has become almost involuntary}.

They say it takes at least 28 days to develop a habit. After a week, you will see that it becomes easier. It’s a mindset and you can control your thoughts. Be proactive and not reactive – give yourself some good words.

{From Motivating Moments}

Is this biblical you ask? They Word of God says,As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7. What you think about yourself and how  you talk about yourself is exactly who you will become – think about it! God made you wonderfully and fearfully {Psalm 139:14}! You deserve to talk about yourself as God would talk about you, and He would only talk good things about you! He made you because He loves you!

{Need more help? Help! I’m Alone with My Mind; A Guide To Gaining Victory Over Your Thoughts}

Changing Your Way of Thinking

Changing Your Way of Thinking. Keys to victorious faith. Inspirational Blog

We all know about attitudes and have heard even our parents tell us to “change our attitudes” when as children we were misbehaving or having a wrong thought process about a situation. Why did they want us to change our attitudes; because when we change our attitudes, our thinking changes, which results in our way of acting.

It all comes back to our thoughts about a situation. Our way of thinking is where our belief system lies. The Word of God tells us as a man thinks in his heart so is he. As a Christian Life Coach and Bible Teacher I have spoken to many people and it always comes back to their “way” of thinking. No matter what is going on in their lives it boils down to their thought process concerning their lives and the world around them.

What we need to understand is that the spoken words out of our mouths have authority over our thoughts. What we allow to come out of our mouths is what will eventually come to pass. The Word has scriptures about guarding our mouths and watching our tongues, why; because the spoken word is far more powerful than your thoughts! What we SAY is what will happen!

I heard Kenneth Copeland give a wonderful illustration to prove how our words have authority over our thoughts and I want us to do it now. Will you do this easy exercise with me now?

Ok, start counting from one to ten in your mind, do not speak out loud, do it now…… ok, now say your name out loud. What happened? You stopped thinking to speak out loud. Our spoken words will always cause our thoughts to stop!

In this exercise we see we can make some assessments:

One, you decided to do the exercise or maybe you decided not to, either way you made a decision right?

Two, you began to think about counting and controlled your thinking to do as you wanted -and that was to count, or you controlled your thinking not to count if you did not participate, either way you had control of your thinking correct?

Lastly, you spoke out your name because you willed to do it. You wanted to speak it out or again you did not will it at all and did not even participate.

No matter if you participated in the exercise or not- you decided what you were going to do, you controlled your thoughts to do what you wanted and then you chose to control your spoken word by either speaking or not! This is the way in which God has created us. We can decide, we can think, and we can speak and always the spoken word has the authority.

Words are powerful; the Bible tells us over and over to “say to this” or “say to that,” because God knows how He created us, and He knows that our spoken words have power! I have had people tell me they cannot control their thoughts or control what they say. I hear people speaking negative things into their lives daily. They talk about how bad it is or how sick they are or how disobedient their children are or how their spouse is this or that. We have to know our words are powerful. Life and death is in the tongue according to Proverbs 18:21. (You want life, so speak things that are life!)

So how do we change our way of thinking? Well it is easy but let me warn you now it is work. It is as easy as what you have already done- decide, think, and say! Decide what you want, think on what you want, and speak out what you want according to the Word of God. The Bible has an answer for every single problem and situation you face in life. There is not one situation the Bible does not give us an answer to. Our responsibility is to search out the Word of God and find the answer to our situation. Then we must decide that this is what we want, then we must think on that scripture, and we must speak it out! Decide, think, say! We cannot do this just one time and expect it to be done. So many Christians stand on a scripture for one time or maybe even a week and then say “it did not work nothing has changed.” But we are to keep standing! (Hebrews 12:3, Ephesians 6:13-14)

The Word of God works (Isaiah 55:11). It is our responsibility to pray and search out the Scriptures to find the Promise which God has ALREADY given us, then we are to decide it is for us, think on it and make it ours, then most importantly we are to speak it out every day, all day if we have to.

So I challenge you today, no matter what your situation is. If you need healing in your body, peace or joy in your life, prosperity in your finances – no matter what it is God has ALREADY given you a Promise you CAN stand on, find it and decide, think, and say and watch what your Heavenly Father will do for YOU!

{This is an excerpt from my book The Drying Pot; And The Refining Fires Necessary To Become A Vessel Used By God}